Stay Woke or Wake Up?

Often, Women especially those of color have to endure a lot to survive in the world. We have to pretend that what our normal experience may be, does not exist. There are times when the “entitled” sit in rooms and glare at us based on the color of our skin or gender. We are passed over for promotions that are well-earned and deserved, but never received. I hear people say “stay woke” a lot, but don’t you have to be awake to stay that way. Women in solidarity, no matter the color of your skin is needed. For some reason, beyond my comprehension, we (Women) do not stick together as we should. Before I get hit by the trolls, I cannot speak for “all” women (that would be impossible); this is based on my experience and those who have shared with me.

There is a common theme that needs to be addressed and not ignored. Endurance is not what I was put on this earth to do on a daily basis (neither were you). Below are a couple of examples that may enlighten some to take a stand for what is right. Some may fear that if they speak up then service will be refused or a job lost. Focus on the positive and know that when one door closes, another always opens. Take a look at where you have been and remember that it can always be better and in some cases, it already is. I heard a celebrity, who is a woman of color, say that she has not experienced racism ever. Did I mention she is from Georgia? Racism is real, alive and kicking. Masked as patronizing, stereotypes, and downright refusal of rights.

Workplace

In the workplace, there is harassment, racism, and sexism that is very common and often a norm that people don’t talk about. Do you ever wonder why there are Diversity departments and programs in many organizations, yet they say that fair practices are administered to all? Has anyone ever gone to HR and report a “diversity” issue,  and was betrayed? You find out that the HR representative is besties with your manager or they are pretentious social climbers who would do just about anything for a promotion? Or you know that sexism and racism that exists, but do not talk about it, and neither does anyone else?

Where do we go from here? If everyone one of us would speak out and address what we experience, then others may not have to experience the same. I know that preaching to the choir is what is always done, but isn’t it just time to do something different. Women in the workplace, especially in managerial positions may not think that the bias applies to them, but it does. No matter what position you hold in your organization, they are keeping you right where they want you. Those of you who have spoken the truth, and decided to look out for other Women in the workplace, Thank you!

Social Outings

Have you ever watched the salesperson treat a customer a certain way and then when it is your turn, the same is not offered to you? What about your dining experience? Is the wait staff as friendly to you as they are to other patrons? Do you have an unpleasant experience when out in a social atmosphere? I could go on with these questions, but I am sure you get the gist. While dining out, which should be an enjoyable experience, one should not have to endure anything negative.

The Need for Change

Endurance states that it is “the ability to withstand hardship or adversity; especially: the ability to sustain a prolonged stressful effort or activity.  Based on this definition, who wants to experience this everyday? Breaking the cycle is never easy, but can be done. What are you going to do differently? Are you ready for a change?

We would like to hear about your thoughts and experience. Share with other as you may never know who needs to hear what you have to say.

 

Peace & Love,

Grace Sowtrue

The RJ Group – Women’s Empowerment Forum

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