When I moved to Atlanta in ’96, it was very exciting for me. It was a time of promise that would allow me to get engaged in groups that I thought of as powerful. I attended a few meetings, of some that are nationally known and other local groups. I received a worm welcome initially, but did not receive a welcome, inviting feeling about joining, or being there for that matter. Why is that? Some groups brag about being open and that all are welcome. This is not true. At first, I thought it was me, however, as I met other transplants they expressed the same. We talked about how cliquish some of the groups are, especially the Women. What is the problem? There is often a sense of rivalry, insecurity, or jealousy that is venomous in Women. There is hardly a time when Women engage with each other without some motive. Where do you work? What do you do for a living? Who do you know? What a difference it would make just see each other as we are and get to know one another without the facades.

It is an empowering feeling to be around another Woman and bond without judgment. Take the test. Do you lock arms when other Women want to enter your circle? Are you stepping on someone else to gain some material possession? Keep it light, ladies. We are so powerful and can express it more in numbers. Love and Peace are powerful! Don’t feel threatened if another Woman wants to join you in a cause, friendship, or group, let them. Cliques don’t click! You will find it refreshing to live in trust. Who knows what that Woman will bring to the table? It certainly won’t be you if the opportunity is declined. Remember the saying, “nothing can enter a closed fist, but an open hand has lots to gain.”

Peace and Blessings,

Grace Sowtrue

The RJ Group